Dan Sullivan
Founder of Strategic Coach. Sullivan's work on consciously collecting good days as a way to shape identity and future capability brought this territory to a wide audience.
Read the full entryMyHGY™ Method Something happened.
Something happened.
It does not have to become the whole story.
Maybe you lost a job, or a relationship. Maybe the news was bad, or the year has been hard, or you just woke up feeling behind and unlike yourself.
Whatever brought you here, start where you actually are.
MyHGY™ helps you separate what happened from what your mind is now telling you it means — and shows you one real thing you can do from here.
Show me what I can do from here. What is the MyHGY™ Method? →Tell us what you're going through.
The MyHGY™ Method is built for where you actually are. These situations are the starting point — not a label.
- A job or career disruption
- A divorce or breakup
- Health uncertainty
- A financial setback
- Starting over
- Feeling stuck, or without direction
- Something else
The guided experience for each situation is coming. Learn what to expect →
A different starting point
You're doing things.
You may actually be progressing.
But you can't see it.
Most personal-development tools are built for people who aren't moving yet. The MyHGY™ Method is also for people already in motion — whose mind has lost track of what they've done, what they've handled, and what they've built.
The problem isn't effort. The problem is that effort without a visible record disappears. The mind defaults to what it can still see — and when progress isn't visible, it's as if it didn't happen.
See how the method makes progress visible →"I am doing things. I may actually be progressing. But I cannot see or feel my progress."
Clarity, Accuracy, and Self-Confidence — and going after what you actually want.
There's a difference between a wish and a goal, and most people never close the gap. CAS is what closes it.
Clarity
Knowing exactly where you stand, right now, without the fog.
Accuracy
Reading your own life through what's actually true — through your own record — instead of a mood, a fear, or an old story about who you are.
Self-Confidence
Finally trusting the version of you that the evidence has been proving, one entry at a time.
The sequence
The MyHGY™ Method follows a recurring sequence — not a checklist to complete once, but a practice to return to.
- Pain
Something has happened that is real, and it deserves to be named clearly.
- Reality
Separate the event itself from the conclusions that have formed around it — and the feared futures that have not yet arrived.
- Agency
Identify what remains within your control or influence today, even if it is smaller than you wish.
- Goal
Choose a meaningful destination proportional to where you are — not where you imagined you would be.
- Action
Take one concrete next step rather than continuing to analyze the situation.
- Commitment
Decide to keep going — not because every day will be good, but because returning after difficulty is what progress actually looks like.
- Evidence
Notice and preserve meaningful moments while life is happening, before memory collapses the day into a single verdict.
- Visible Progress
Allow the accumulated evidence to show you what is actually changing — so that confidence is built on what you have lived, not on what someone told you to believe.
Personal development works like everything else you've ever gotten good at... PRACTICE
Athletes train. Musicians rehearse. Students study. Pilots run checklists before every flight. Teams practice before the game.
You already know this is true in your own life, in the simplest ways. To become leaner, you take up an exercise routine. To become healthier, you start to eat better. To enhance your career, you get more prepared and certified. To become a better parent, you pay more attention and become more present.
Personal development works the same way. One lesson, one book, one great conversation can show you something true — but it only becomes part of you through a proven system, built by doing it again. And again — until it's no longer something you're choosing. It's something your subconscious has already accepted as true.
Here's the practice. Every day, life hands you real fuel — a win at work, a hard moment you got through, a look from someone who loves you. Carry a notebook, or use your phone. Every single day, find at least three real instances and write them down. Writing them down is what gets them into your subconscious. Do this without exception, and a record builds — one you can trust, because you wrote it while it was happening, not after your memory reshaped it.
That record is where Clarity, Accuracy, and Self-Confidence come from.
Personal development deserves a practice — the same way anything worth becoming great at deserves one.
What the practice looks like
The practice is something you can begin today.
The MyHGY™ Method is not an app. It is a repeatable structure for the ordinary days — one you can begin manually, with whatever you have at hand.
01
Return to present reality
Separate what actually happened from the story your mind has built around it.
02
Identify what remains available
Something is still within your control or influence. Name it.
03
Choose a direction
A meaningful destination — even a modest one — gives consecutive actions somewhere to go.
04
Take one constructive action
Not a plan. One action, today.
05
Notice what happened
Pause to recognize meaningful moments: something handled well, a connection made, a fear faced.
06
Preserve it
Write it down close enough to the moment that the detail and the feeling are still alive.
07
Reflect and return
Compare what you preserved against the mind's verdict. When the practice breaks — return.
Hall of Fame
This territory has a history.
The ideas behind MyHGY™ grew from a long tradition of serious thinking about attention, self-image, agency, evidence, and what it means to remain a capable person in the face of difficulty.
Eckhart Tolle
Author of The Power of Now. His central distinction — between present lived reality and the mind's construction of what happened — is foundational to MyHGY's insistence that a painful event and the story around it are not the same thing.
Read the full entryMaxwell Maltz
Author of Psycho-Cybernetics. Maltz identified self-image as the governing mechanism of behavior — a model in which mistakes become correction information rather than permanent verdicts, and preserved evidence of past capability becomes usable material for future confidence.
Read the full entryViktor Frankl
Author of Man's Search for Meaning. Frankl's work on agency, meaning, and the possibility of a constructive response even when circumstances cannot be changed is central to MyHGY's position on what remains available to a person after a painful event.
Read the full entryMartin Seligman
Seligman's positive psychology research — particularly the Three Good Things practice and the body of work on wellbeing and attention — provides adjacent scientific support for the deliberate notice of meaningful experience that underpins MyHGY's evidence practice.
Read the full entryMyHGY™ is not affiliated with, sponsored by, endorsed by, or partnered with any of the individuals listed here. Each is recognized solely for the contribution their published work has made to this field.
Our Story
I found the fuel in my own life. I just wasn't using it.
For most of my life I told myself the same story: I was talented, but I had no structure. School had been hard. Structure felt unnatural to me. I started things and didn't finish them, and over the years, "I don't stick with things" became part of how I saw myself. I believed it, because I had years of proof to back it up.
Then I learned something that changed everything: your mind doesn't check whether a belief is true. It just accepts whatever you repeat into it, over and over, until repetition alone makes it feel like fact. That's exactly how "I have no structure" became true for me. Not because it was — because I said it to myself for fifty years.
So I started carrying a notebook every day and using the small instances of magic that happened in my life. My boss stopping me in the hallway to say I'd done great work. A client calling to say he wanted to bring me more business. One of my daughters looking me dead in the eyes and smiling at me for no reason at all. I became committed to finding at least three of them every single day and writing them down. The more I looked, the more I noticed how many good things were actually happening that I'd been disregarding. And the more I wrote them down, the more I could feel my subconscious handing me back a different, more positive reality.
I stopped drinking. I trained for and finished a half marathon. I read 27 books in eight months, after fifty years of believing I couldn't sit still long enough to finish one. I rode a three-day off-road rally across Panama. And somewhere in the middle of doing all of it, I noticed something: I wasn't chasing these things out of desperation anymore. I was going after them with Clarity about where I stood, Accuracy about what was actually true, and Self-Confidence built from a growing pile of evidence I could see with my own eyes.
That's what MyHGY is. I found the fuel that was already in my life every day. I built a practice around catching it. And I want to hand you the same practice.
Read our story →
The notebook is where the practice starts.
Every entry, every day, at least three — that's what builds Clarity, Accuracy, and Self-Confidence. That part never changes, and it works with nothing more than a notebook.
As the practice grows, so does the record. MyDopa™ provides visibility and continuity to your process.
MyHGY teaches the practice. MyDopa™ provides the equipment.
Meet MyDopa →MyDopa™ is a separate product. No affiliation or endorsement of this site is implied.
Ready when you are
Start with your actual life.
You don't need to understand the whole Method before you use it.
Tell us what's happening in your life right now — work, family, money, a loss, a goal, something you're worried about, something you're trying to build. We'll help you apply the MyHGY practice to your situation and give you one place to start.
Show me what I can do from here.